These rules and forms came about when my
eldest came home from 7th grade and told me that she was going steady. Going
steady didn't meant the same thing to her as it did to me. I wasn't ready for my
child to start dating and decided I had better lay out some guidelines and rules
immediately to avoid arguments. Having no experience of my own to really guide
me (I dated very little before marriage), I did alot of research and came up
with the house rules. We didn't follow them to the letter but they came in
I remember my youngest being
told my her big brother that she had to go to bed "right now!". She
ran to the house rules and told him that "No, the house rules say that I
can stay up later on Saturday nights!"
were no arguments about allowances. Very little complaining about a sibling
being able to do something when they weren't allowed to.
forms about cleaning and housework came about because telling my kids to clean
their room meant totally different things to them and to me. To them it meant
hiding things under the bed and throwing things in the closet. It didn't mean
actually cleaning anything - just picking up. Most of the forms were only used a
couple of times. Just to get the idea across about what I meant when I asked
them to do something.
My mother had a
wonderful story about telling my brother to go take a bath. After checking on
him after a few minutes when she didn't hear the water running, she found that
he had decided to try dry cleaning. Apparently taking a bath didn't necessarily
mean using water to him.
I ran into an old neighbor who told me how much she liked the
house rules that I had. She was raising a grandchild and having a copy of my
rules gave her something to use when she needed to set limits for her child. She
got a copy of them and made copies for others. Having written house rules cuts
down on arguments with your children and arguments between them. The rules are clear and written down. The parent is not put in the position of
being the bad guy as often. Click on the "House_Rules_.pdf"
(left) to bring up the printer-friendly pdf version. Click on the title
(right) to bring up the WebPages. Now that my
children are grown, I no longer use them so I am passing them on to you.
Some of the pages I have on WebPages so you can read them
easily. The pdf formats print better. After 30 years of raising children,
there are some things on the rules I would change which I commented about at the
bottom on the WebPages.
The following were saved using Adobe Acrobat 5.0:
Free Home Management forms:
of these were printed on a dot matrix. Most are of better quality.)
- Money and Bedtimes
- Golden Rules
- Chores and Priorities
- Rules for Dating and Going Out with Friends
- Rules for Parties
- Getting Along at Home
- Personal Care
- So now you're 18...
Other useful forms:
- If your child is going to stay with a friend or relative for a few days, it is
a good idea to have one of these filled out.
- If you keep a list of what you bought and wrapped, you won't forget to get
something for someone.
- It gets difficult to buy anything for teenagers and adults.
- Good for assigning the job to someone who doesn't usually clean the bathroom.
Also good for people who get sidetracked easily to keep them on task.
- Keeps the job on task.
- Having blanks to fill out means that you have the important information
- Do you have a list of everyone's Social Security Numbers?
Laundry.pdf - The
basics on doing laundry
- If you want to get parents to volunteer to help at school, don't send home
sheets for them to sign and return to the school. Talk to them in person at a
school function (open house) and help them fill out the form
- Parties don't just happen. It takes some planning for them to go well.
- If the job gets listed, it is more likely to get done.
- Recycle paper by printing these on the back.
- Our teachers were not used to having volunteers. All they wanted was parents
to relieve them of being on the playground and to do photocopying.
- Kids can be hard-of-hearing sometimes. A schedule posted on the refrigerator
gets around this problem.
- For the bathroom and bedroom
- Dejunking can be the hardest job of all.
Good for people who haven't done much dusting.
- If you plan some meals, kids can start the meal, food won't stay in the
freezer for years, fresh food will get used while it is still fresh. This one
doesn't assign the food to specific days. Cross off the items when used for a
- These next three forms are similar. Use the one you like best.
- Vacuums come with attachments that are great for dusting.