These rules and forms came about when my
eldest came home from 7th grade and told me that she was going steady. Going
steady didn't meant the same thing to her as it did to me. I wasn't ready
for my child to start dating and decided I had better lay out some
guidelines and rules immediately to avoid arguments. Having no experience of
my own to really guide me (I dated very little before marriage), I did alot
of research and came up with the house rules. We didn't follow them to the
letter but they came in handy.
I remember my youngest being told my her big
brother that she had to go to bed "right now!". She ran to the house rules
and told him that "No, the house rules say that I can stay up later on
There were no arguments about allowances.
Very little complaining about a sibling being able to do something when they
weren't allowed to.
The forms about cleaning and housework came
about because telling my kids to clean their room meant totally different
things to them and to me. To them it meant hiding things under the bed and
throwing things in the closet. It didn't mean actually cleaning anything -
just picking up. Most of the forms were only used a couple of times. Just to
get the idea across about what I meant when I asked them to do something.
My mother had a wonderful story about telling
my brother to go take a bath. After checking on him after a few minutes when
she didn't hear the water running, she found that he had decided to try dry
cleaning. Apparently taking a bath didn't necessarily mean using water to
I ran into an old neighbor who told me
how much she liked the house
I had. She was raising a grandchild and having a copy of my rules gave her
something to use when she needed to set limits for her child. She got a copy
of them and made copies for others. Having written house rules cuts down on
arguments with your children and arguments between them. The rules are
clear and written down. The parent is not put in the position of being the
bad guy as often. Click on the "House_Rules_.pdf" (left) to bring up
the printer-friendly pdf version. Click on the title (right) to bring up the
WebPages. Now that my children are grown, I no longer use them so I am
passing them on to you. Some of the pages I have on WebPages so you
can read them easily. The pdf formats print better. After 30 years of
raising children, there are some things on the rules I would change which I
commented about at the bottom on the WebPages.
The Following were saved using Adobe
Free Home Management forms:
(Some of these were printed on a dot matrix.
Most are of better quality.)
- Good for assigning the job to someone who
doesn't usually clean the bathroom. Also good for people who get sidetracked
easily to keep them on task.
- Keeps the job on task.
Cleaning/Spring_Cleaning_Joblist.pdf - If
the job gets listed, it is more likely to get done.
The basics on doing laundry
Kids can be hard-of-hearing sometimes. A schedule posted on the refrigerator
gets around this problem.
For the bathroom and bedroom
Dejunking can be the hardest job of all.
Good for people who haven't done much
Vacuums come with attachments that are great
- money and bedtimes
- Golden Rules
- Chores & Priorities
- Automobiles and driving
- Dating and going out with friends
Rules/House_Rules_6.pdf - Rules for parties