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HOUSE RULES - pg.
5
RULES FOR DATING AND GOING OUT WITH
FRIENDS
NO GOING STEADY UNTIL YOU'VE GRADUATED
HIGH SCHOOL
| Reasons:
It cheats you of the opportunity to learn about all kinds of people.
The dating years are precious. These are the years during which you
develop your pattern and techniques for dealing with people.
When you go steady, you tend to let your life get centered on one
person. You can easily forget your other friends and just do what your
steady wants and see just whom your steady wants to.
Going steady is the first step toward marriage. |
NEVER ASSUME YOU CAN GO OUT WITHOUT CHECKING WITH YOUR PARENTS FIRST
| Reasons:
The family may have plans that you forgot or didn't know about.
If you forget to tell your parents of your plans BEFOREHAND, you may
not be allowed to go. |
LET YOUR FRIENDS KNOW THEY ARE NOT TO PULL UP BY OUR HOUSE AND HONK THE
HORN.
| Reasons:
If you know your friend is to pick you up at a certain time, you
should be ready and waiting.
We can't hear horns very well from inside the house.
It disturbs the neighbors.
If it is your date, he/she should come in and meet your family. |
DATING:
| No dating until you are in high school.
When you are in high school, you can double date. |
SEX:
| Please think this through. If you really love someone,
you want what is best for him and you. Isn't it best to finish your
schooling and have a solid job before you risk having a child to take
care of? There is no 100% safe contraceptive. If someone is pressuring
you to have sex and you are not ready to be a parent, maybe he/she
doesn't really love you? |
ALL OTHER HOUSE RULES APPLY
ADDITIONAL RULES:
| Comments: Kids often think they
have to go steady. They get their ideas about relationships from TV. Is
that really where they should be getting their ideas about
relationships? Group dating is a concept that should be encouraged.
Going out in groups with no one matched with anyone in particular. It is
usually more fun for the kids, too. No pressure of trying to please one
particular person. |
| A famous old column (about 15+
years) from Dear Abby - some things still apply...
DEAR ABBY: About 15 years ago, you wrote a column telling girls how
to answer boys who asked them to prove their love by committing
fornication, which is a sin.
Many teen-age girls cut that column out and carried it in their
purses. Today's sex education makes it seem OK for teen-age girls to
have sex as long as they "love" the boy. I wish you would
reprint that column. It is badly needed now.
--WASHINGTON, N.J.
DEAR N.J.: Here it is:
Girls need to "prove their love" through
illicit sex relations like a moose needs a hat rack.
Why not prove your love by sticking your head in the oven
and turning on the gas? Or playing leapfrog out in the traffic? It's about
as safe.
Clear the cobwebs out of your head. Any fellow who asks
you to "prove your love" is trying to take you for the biggest,
most gullible fool who ever walked. That proving bit is one of the oldest
and rottenest lines ever invented!
Does he love you? It doesn't sound like it. Someone who
loves you wants whatever is best for you. but now figure it out. He wants
you to:
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Commit an immoral act. |
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Surrender your virtue. |
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Throw away your self-respect. |
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Risk the loss of your precious reputation. |
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And risk getting into trouble. |
Does that sound as though he wants what's best for you?
This is the laugh of the century. He wants what's best for him... he wants
a thrill he can brag about at your expense.
Love? Who's kidding whom? A boy who loves a girl would
sooner cut off his right arm than hurt her. If you want my opinion, this
self-serving so-and-so has already proved that he doesn't love you.
The predictable aftermath of "proofs" of this
kind always finds Don Juan tiring of his sport. That's when he drops you,
picks up his line and goes casting elsewhere for bigger, and equally
silly, fish.
DEAR ABBY
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